It is important that we stay patient, above all else, when leading ourselves in the direction of greatness. Doing too much at once can lead us to miss out on what truly matters in our lives.
The goal is not to escape our current reality as fast as we can, as much as it is to use our challenges as catalysts that give us an opportunity to reach deep inside of ourselves and overcome our circumstances.
When we think we should be part of a different “reality”, we feel pain. Often the comparisons we make to other realities, other than our current reality can cause us discomfort and make us feel a sense of hopelessness.
“I should be an executive by now!”
“I should be married by now!”
“I should be a millionaire by now!”
No you shouldn’t.
A life coach once told me this:
“Wherever you are, is exactly where you are supposed to be.” – Paul Strobl
The comparisons to other realities can hurt and we don’t need more hurt in our lives. We need to use the hurts we have to reach deep inside ourselves and build ourselves back up from where we are currently at.
When we rush, we make sloppy decisions.
The goal is not to escape our current reality as quickly as possible, the goal is the process.
We we will lose our direction from time to time, and that is okay. We get ahead of ourselves and it ends up hurting our progress, that is okay.
The goal is always to get back to the process. A little bit, each day, over and over and over again. That is all.
We simply must find our quality in the quantity. We cannot spend time worrying about being perfect with our practice. There is no time or room in our lives for perfection. What we need is more failure in our lives. We need to speed up the learning process through lots and lots of small failures.
We do not “rush” to speed up the learning process, but instead we allow ourselves to get in the habit of being comfortable with failure, and this quickly allows us to get back to the jovial attitude that we need to work on our goals each day.
The attitude we are looking for is this:
“I GET to work on my goals today.”
“I GET to exercise my body today.”
“I GET to experience life today, with all its struggles.”
We simply must embrace this concept of patience and be grateful for the journey of the process.
If we don’t, our hurts will hold us back and slow us down.
The concept of the “Dream Immersion Habit” is to do something every single day of your life that puts you in touch with your dream or goal.
The habit does not have to take long, it should take 10 minutes or less out of your day. It just needs to be something that subtly or intensely reminds you of your long-term dream.
My opinion is that the more intense you can make your Dream Immersion Habit, the more you will feel motivated, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be intense, you can decide what the proper level is.
One of my dreams is to buy a beach house in Hawaii some day. Although I have other dreams as well, this is a good “Keystone Dream”, since it reminds me of a big thing that I want to accomplish and also reminds me of my other goals that go along with it, such as having a wife and kids, friends and family, my health and a life of creativity to name a few.
Since this is my dream, my Daily Immersion Habit has been to watch a 5 minute clip on YouTube of the house I want to buy in Hawaii. It is an actual walk through of the house. The house is roughly $10 Million Dollars, which is obviously a big goal, but the point is that I am reminding myself every single day that I am working towards something “big”.
I am working towards something.
The idea with the “Dream Immersion Habit” is that we are directing our focus on what is important to us in our lives. We are directing our focus which really means we are redirecting our focus. In other words, we are meditating on our dream, every single day of our life.
Over and over again, day by day, we are redirecting our focus on the goals we are trying to achieve in our life. This is important for us being able to move through our life, and especially the obstacles that show up, in a forwardly progressive manner.
Another example I could do on a daily basis is add a little bit of salt to a glass of water in the morning. Not only might this have positive health benefits, but it also acts as an inner experience, an inner reminder, of ocean water, Pacific Ocean water, as in my dream of owning a beach house in Hawaii.
By doing this activity on a daily basis, I am constantly reminding myself of the future experiences I want to have, and priming my mental state to stay disciplined with the daily actions I need to take in order to make this dream a reality.
I am not attached to whether or not I actually have this house some day, but I am committed to my daily practice of progressing towards my goal.
It is this progress that brings great joy into my life. It feels good to get better at and move towards something, especially doing so consistently.
This build momentum, which puts us more and more in a mental state of being “compelled” to work towards our dreams, and have fun or find enjoyment in the process.
Ideally, the more you are in touch with your dream, the better, since you will be more compelled to stay consistent with your daily habits.
There is kind of a “Dark Side” to this exercise, but I will touch on that in another article and provide some tools to help work through difficult emotions that might come up.
I will also touch on the concept of a dream journal and self-written future experience stories in another post.
Thanks for joining me!
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton